To grow a real defender

Psychologists believe that in order for the boy to grow a real man, it must be less scolding and more praise, and most parents are doing just the opposite. Thus, according to the Institute of developmental physiology of children and adolescents RAO, boys 4 times punished more often than girls and 2 times less praise. And then women wonder where are the real men, the real defenders of the Fatherland...

The boys from an early age to cultivate the four main qualities. First, it is confidence. To stand up for the weak only if you are confident in your own abilities. Physical force will provide regular training. For psychological confidence, you need a reliable rear. Let the child know that there are parents who will always be able to help him.

Often hear the phrase: &&171;You're a man, and real men never cry&&187;. And this is the main mistake parents. A baby who is not able to pour out to her parents hurt himself unable to empathize. Let the child learn to understand the feelings of the injured party: not to take away toys, put yourself in the place of another. With the right approach children only to 5-6 years is able consciously to show compassion.

Such qualities as courage and independence, we need to stand up for the weak or oppose the majority. Encourage any manifestation of independence, do not explain to the child the behavior of all others as the only correct one. Avoid phrases: &&171;Nobody is crying, then you don't need&&187;; &&171;Behold, all the children went home, then it is time for us&&187;.

A real man should be able to analyze the situation. Reading books together or watching the cartoon, focus kid on the positive actions of the characters. Ask your child to imagine myself in their place. Adults talk with your child's relationship with peers.

Of course, mothers alone are difficult to grow real men. If no Pope, there must be another man who can be a role model for the boy, to teach male behavior. This can be a grandfather, an uncle, a teacher, a sports coach or someone else.

Tips for moms: do not skimp on affection towards the little boy, don't be afraid to grow old or to awaken early sexuality. On the contrary: you are modeling a normal relationship between a man and a woman based on love.

Do not neglect the manhood of the son at any age, don't be afraid to be weak and defenseless. Even one-year-old kid is able to bring mom a book or push chair. Not protect the child too and do not scold for everything.

Tips dads: do not Studite little son for tears and do not use physical punishment as violence is fraught with bitterness. Most praise the kid, teach him personal hygiene to like girls. Well before school to teach your child to swim, ski, ride a Bicycle, play volley ball or any other ball game. Such skills are always useful in life.